I have been receiving lot of questions and comments based on my post on Varalakshmi Viratham Pooja. I tried to collate all the questions and provided the responses here. These are based on my best knowledge and the tradition that has been followed in our family. The tradition may vary across the families and I strongly recommend you to follow the traditions which are being followed in your family. The responses here are just for guidance only.
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Can pregnant women perform this Pooja?
a.
Till 5th month of pregnancy period, we
can perform the pooja. After that, it is considered as theetu so not advisable
to perform the pooja
2.
When do we need to move the kalasam?
a.
The next day we need to move the amman in north
direction and keep milk as neivedhyam and then after 10 minutes, we can remove
the kalasam and keep it in rice box
3.
Do we need to put the Amman’s face together with
jewellery in the rice pot or only the coconut
a.
Yes, along with the amman’s face, we keep the
kalasam inside the rice pot. After we keep milk for neivedhyam in night, we
need to move the amman along with kalasam inside the rice drum. The next day,
we can remove the amman with kalasam and store it in their original places.
4.
What can we do with the coconut and the rice in
kalasam?
a.
Generally we use the rice and coconut for making
Krishna Jayanthi Neivedhyam dishes.
5.
Where to keep the amman mugham after Pooja?
a.
In the evening, we need to do neivedhyam again
and in the night, we have to keep milk as neivedhyam and shift the amman mugham
with the kalasam inside the rice bag / drum
6.
Can we use the dolls for the vratham that are
available in the market ? Can we reuse them next year?
a.
Generally we use amman face made out of silver.
Many of us also use coconut to decorate the amman face. You can try using a coconut.
7.
Can we start doing the Pooja all by ourselves?
a.
If it is the first time, this viratham has to be
started by an elderly women (MIL or Mom) who is already doing this Pooja.
That’s the tradition. But if you stay abroad without your close relation, then
with your MIL or mom consent, you can take the Pooja from an elderly women near
your house or from a priest.
8.
What if I get period and not able to do the Pooja?
a.
You can very well perform the whole Pooja the
next friday
9.
After decorating the amman and vefore starting
the Pooja, if periods start, what needs to be done?
a.
We can’t keep the decorated amman wait for a
week. So you can ask your spouse to dismantle the amman and you can again redo
the alankaram / decoration and make all neivedhyam dishes and perform the Pooja
the next friday
10.
Unfortunately, If someone in the family expired
in the same year, can we do the Pooja?
a.
As per the tradition, if someone in the family
from husband’s side expired, then, we should not perform the Pooja that year.
If it is from your side, then if it is more than 13 days and its your in-laws
custom to perform the Pooja then you can continue.
11.
What are the main neivedhyam dishes for this auspicious
day?
Can we do this pooja without a tradition in both groom and bride family? Is it ok to perform all the rituals keeping goddess Laxmi photo?
b. As long as we have the devotion in our mind nothing is wrong. Varalakshmi Pooja is open to anyone and goddess lakshmi will bless us with all health and wealth.
Hi if I have done varalakshmi puja n der r no married Indian ladies near me n temple is far to travel after puja can I give thamboolam to my 2 year old daughter
sure you can start. Just check if you have some friends who are already doing and you can start with them next year. If no one, then you can start by yourself
Thank you so much. I am really very happy to hear this as i ve been asking many people including my family vadhyar. We are basically palakkad iyers, and vadhyar said as we don't have, we shouldn't do the vratam. Anyways thank you so much. I have one more question. As you said anyone can start, will all the formalities like nombu, vratam, neivedhyam, procedures will be same or is there anything different for a beginner or who don't have? Regards..Srividya, Bangalore.
Mami, i was going through all your blogs, in certain blog you have mentioned that we have to take permission from MIL before starting. As I already mentioned earlier my family vadhyar said we should not do and my MIL generally follows whatever he says. I will try to convince her, but worried if she doesn't agree. Regards, Srividya, Bangalore.
I just wanted to know if their permission is must and as I don't stay with them, it hardly makes any difference, but my concern is should this vratam be performed only after seeking elders' consent. I am clarifying this because when I do the pooja, I want to do whole heartedly and on yearly basis.Thanks and Regards. Srividya
Annual Thithi (2nd death anniversary) of my eldest BIl falls this year on The date of Varalakshmi poojai. CAn i perform on that day or shoudl it be postponed to next friday?
Annual Thithi (2nd death anniversary) of my eldest BIl falls this year on The date of Varalakshmi poojai. CAn i perform on that day or shoudl it be postponed to next friday?
Useful information!!! It is believed that performing Varalakshmi Homam on Varalakshmi Vrat day is equal to Worshipping Ashtalakshmi’s- the eight goddess. Varalakshmi homam is performed for the purpose of gaining wealth. To know more Click here
Mami, my father in laws brother passed away and so no festival for one year. As I cannot do varalakshmi vratham at home, can I go to my friends or neighbours house to do it. If so, how I have to do in their house. Just put Pushpam and tie the chardu or I can sit along with them and do the Pooja. Please advise. Thank you.
Hi Mam, my father in law passed away 2 years back. So I have 2 idols, one is mine and other is Mil’s. can I put 2 idols in one kalasam and do the puja?
Hi Ma’am,
My FIL passed away 2 years back. I have 2 ammans , one is mine and the other is my MIL’S. Can I put 2 ammans in one kalasam and do puja?
My MIL insists that I should do puja of both Ammans. How to do it? Please reply Ma’am.
Yes we can put both the amman in the same kalpakam and perform pooja every year. Many of my friends are performing like that every year. I once checked with a priest and he also told that it is absolutely fine.
My mom used to perform Varalakshmi pooja for 28-29 years.But,now she is hospital and in bedridden condition due to brain hemorage.Am only child,can i still do the pooja?
Only saradu for family members. For rest we can give thamboolam. Generally the elders suggest us to keep till next year nonbu by applying turmeric every day. but we can keep atleast for 3 days. Do not remove on tuesdays and fridays
Hello.. My friend is keeping two idol faces for Varalakshmi reason is not clear from her though . I am more curious in understanding the reason and history behind keeping two idols for Varalakshmi . Please assist us to know more about this . Thanks in advance
mostly one of the idol face would be our ancestors that was passed to us after we have got our own idol face. so some of us have 2 idols. otherwise there is no rule or procedure to keep 2 faces
mami , I couldn’t do varalakshmi vratham this year that is 24/8/2018 as i was not feeling well . can i tie the thread just by chanting lakshmi ashtotharam without keeping the kalasham or can i postpone to next year . Pl advice me
generally if we have a tradition to keep kalasam we have to follow the same every year. If you feel good this friday you can very well do it. if at all you dont have any option, you can tie the thread
Hi, I would like to know when can we dismantle the kalasam?
Some say, we should not dismantle the same day (that is Friday) and Saturday is Lord Vishnu’s day. Is Sunday good day to dismantle it? I am doing the pooja today. But Sunday is Krishna Janmashtami, can I dismantle that day? Are there any odd day calculation to be considered? Sorry for so many questions, but I really need your help in this.. thanks.
yes we can dismantle on sunday. generally we do punar poojai the next day and the night we will remove amman and place in rice bucket. then the next day (3rd day) we will keep the amman in its box
This year I have no Pooja as my husband’s periamma expired. I was not able to tie charadu in others home also.somebody told me that not only we have to tie charadu we should keep our Amman mugam in their Pooja.Is it correct? Pls clarify.And pls let me know what to do if can’t tie charadu in others home also
Hi Maami, I’m newly married and I stay with my in-laws. Our Vaadhyar says we have to keep two kalasams and do, one for my MIL and one for me(newly bought) but some say we should do in only one kalasam I.E keep both mugams in new kalasam and do. Which is correct? Please help.
We can keep 2 both the mugam in 2 different kalasam and perform the pooja together. My friend’s mom and her sister both have separate mugam and kalasam and they do the pooja together in one of their homes every year. So as per your vaadhyar you can do the 2 kalasam. Even if you want to move out later from your MIL home because of your job transfer then both of you have your own mugam and kalasam.
Hi Madam, I’m in US, most of my friends are working and can’t make to come my house on Friday evening. So can I give Varalakshmi thamboolam on Saturday or Sunday?
Its always a good practice to give thamboolam on the same evening. But if you can’t find anyone to give thamboolam on the same day, pls give it on next day
Hi! My mother- in-law is visiting us, and the Pooja date falls during the visit. When I was newly married, I had performed the Pooja at her place, she put her Mugam first and then mine was below. She said that since it was her house hers had to be placed first and on top. Also, she made me return the Mugam in which I did the first Pooja saying that it was bigger than hers. Now since it is my house, will it be all right to have my Mugam go first? I would really appreciate your reply since I don’t know the customs in Iyers. All my cues on customs come from her like Mangalyam has to be purchased from girl’s side etc. etc. I am a Marathi Brahmin, and has not seen this before getting married. I want to do the right thing, that’s all. Thank you very much! Please let me know your thoughts.
You can have two separate mugam. My friends mom and her sister do this pooja every year on the same house and they use 2 kalsam and perform pooja separately for 2 kalasam. I’m not sure about the top and bottom placement. If you know a priest pls check with him once so we can be sure.
Hello mam, thanks for the information.
My parents not my in-laws perform varalaxmi vratham, but I’m v much interested so I started doing it since a year. But I did not keep any kalasha. I performed all the rituals keeping goddess Laxmi photo. Is it ok? I’m in dilemma as to keep kalash or not ,as I didn’t get this Pooja from my ansestors and I’m not sure how long will it continue after me..pls guide… Thanks
As long as we have the devotion in our mind nothing is wrong. Varalakshmi Pooja is open to anyone and goddess lakshmi will bless us with all health and wealth.
We can keep 2 kalasam together and perform pooja. My friend’s mom and her sister both of them keep their kalasam in the same house and perform pooja every year.
Conventionally married women take this viratham from their inlaws or from their mother. But the pooja is not restricted like that. Anyone can perform pooja with devotion and give thambulam
Mam I am brahmin married to non brahmin. My mom’s place we do varalaxmi vrat. But at my MiL place they don’t. Me n my husband live away from in laws place. So can I do this pooja. My inlaws and husband are ok with it, provided I religiously follow it every year. Pls suggest mam.
Hi, I did varamahalakshmi pooja in the morning but I got my periods in the afternoon, my husband and daughter did the evening pooja. Can I do the pooja next week again?
Hi ma’am i celebrated varalakshmi pooja very welll..ad we remove kalasam on 3rd day but i got periods how do i remove kalasam.. my husband can do tis????
My MIL expired before my marriage I’m using her Amman face with mine but now some are saying we should not use as she is no more pls suggest me what I should do
Nothing like that. One of my friend is using her late MIL’s amman face and hers in the same kalasam one below other and perform pooja every year. Her family priest also says that’s totally fine. So instead of listening to others, just get one advice from your family priest and always think that your MIL’s blessing is with you thats the reason you are blessed to have both.
Its just an accident. Do not feel bad. Just place it again and do lakshmi ashtotram and keep milk as prasad and once you finish off the pooja, you can pack and keep it for next year
Shall I do Varalakshmi Pooja on 30th August. Because of some problem am not perform Pooja at my home. 30th is the 5th Friday n it’s amavasya also. So, is it ok to do Pooja on that day. Please give reply,…
Hello Navatha, it’s Avani month already. I am not sure if it’s okay to perform the pooja in the following month as per tradition. Can you please check with a priest or a nearby temple.
Im deeply sorry Parvathi. Please do not link pooja and this unfortunate event. Please compose yourself I have a strong belief that God never punishes us for anything. Please take care.
Hi mam… This is my 6 th year of marriage..all these years I performed pooja with photo only but did not placed kalasham becoz the first year of my marriage has adhika masam..can I start keeping kalasham from this year??…my mil never does the pooja ..my mom does the pooja with kalasham…
If you have not started the kalpakam its auspicious when the pooja comes in Avant month. If you are telugu, then once the ammavasai is over i guess you can start
I am from andhrapradesh, currently living in us. I didn’t understand that avant month..sorry mam…can I keep kalasham for first time on this Friday July ,31
and this is my 6 th year of marriage..
Yeah Telugu people consider the Shravana month ends after the new moon day in shravana month. Since the new moon day is already over, you can keep the kalasham. I would advice you to check your family customs too before proceeding. Thanks
Hi mam thanku for pooja details, but I hv one dbt mam, before tieing knot I shld take tambulam so can I take tambulam from my husband and can my husband tie knot to me.
For the first time its advisable to start when the Varalakshmi pooja comes in Avani month instead of Aadi. My MIL also don’t have custom and my mom has got me amman face last year but still I have not started yet as last year and this year the varalakshmi pooja is in Aadi month. So pls wait and start
If you have nearby temple you can take thamboolam and give it to people who come to temple. If no temple nearby or any Indians around, its okay you can give tamboolam to your kid.
Hi. I have started varlakshmi Pooja after my marriage. Inspite of my mother and mother in laws don’t do it. I do it with all my interest. Have one doubt what should we do with the coconut placed on kalasam and rice filled in it
I started poooja this year and next day of pooja my MIL side with same surname someone expired and I didn’t move the kalasam, what is the option now?
Thank you!
Since you have already done the pooja, you have to do the Punar poojai like just offering fruits and flowers and move the kalasam to north direction. next day you can repack everything.
I got my periods this week. So I am not able to do pooja today. As you said I am going to do pooja next week. But I have little disappointment for not able to do this week. All my friends have been able to do but I’m not able to. Is it because of anything wrong I did?
Maam every time we have varamahalakshmi pooja we have some fight at home ,in my moms place there is a tradition of conducting this we somehow manage to do ,we follow the right practice ,now im married n its 3 months my husband family does not have this tradition but they gave me permission as i stay alone in my house ,I wanted start it but could not because like every year the same way how it happens in my moms place this year even in my house the day before some issue arose and created trouble and we lost the interest to conduct im jus failing to understand why this happens ,please help me im eagerly waiting for ur reply.
Hello Mam,
I wanted to do the Varalakshmi pooja and planned this year for the first time. But I could not do it because i had periods on the Varalakshmi pooja day. Can I start the Pooja this year itself on coming Friday? worried if Theipirai is not a good day to start as it is the first time Please advise, thanks in advance.
Hi Bhuvaneshwari, if you are planning to start for the first time, I would advice you to wait for the next year as it comes in Avani month which is auspicious to start new custom.
Dear Mam, I did the varalakshmi during this year for the first time. I kept three glass of rice in the plate and then kalasam.
But during third day, after removing kalasam, I found the quantity of rice is slightly decreased and also found a worm in the rice.
I am not happy about this. Kindly explain the symptoms of this.
Are we not blessed by goddess.
Thanks,
Bhanu
Please don’t relate these natural causes to God. the kalasam might have been damp before adding rice. That might have caused the rice to stick with each other and the dampness will be reason for the worm also. This surely not related to God. Anything we do with our full heart is always accepted by God. We are children of God and he/she will not punish us.
My Father-in-laws brother’s son is expired on the day of varalaxmi vratam in India. I’m currently in USA And this is the first year i was wishing to start doing varalaxmi vratam. Is it fine if I do vratam on the friday that comes after 11 days of his death.
Now my Father in law n his brother’s family is not staying together ( not a combined family).
Please help me with ur resplnse
Can i allow other people to give their kalasam filled with rice and coins to my varalakshmi pooja. Because once i allowed my nighbor to give their kalasam to my poojai and later i returned it without rice and coins to her. Now we are suffering more without profit in our business. i feel little bit doubted about it. can you please say about it. Can we let other people to handle their kalasam in my poojai and let them take it back to their home?
Hi Rekha, sorry to know about loss in business. I personally don’t think keeping other’s Kalasam is a problem. I have seen many of my friends and relatives doing pooja together. Let us Surrender to Goddess Lakshmi and do pooja dedicatedly and she will bless us.
Hi mam in this corona time it is difficult to give thamboolam to five members even it is difficult to go to temples,is there any alternative for giving thamboolam?only mother is available in my house.
If you could check with your family priest, he can guide you correctly. He can come unperson and help with mantras too. Or you can ask any of your friends who are doing this pooja everyyear and join with them for the first year. 🙏
my husband’s Grandmother expired this year so that would mean, I don’t do Puja this year correct? when we say 1 year, it’s one year from her her death( 365 days). Also I was told if you start the Puja any year, you are required to do every year. Can’t miss a year.Is that correct? can I go to temple and watch the puja there?
Pls check with your family priest. Eventhough we can’t do pooja this year you should do fruit neivedhyam i guess. pls check with priest they would guide you correctly
I am married and right now at moms place because of Aadi month and I will go back to in laws place after the Vara Lakshmi Vratam only..I never did Varalakshmi vratam before and wanted start the Pooja this time.. So can I perform Pooja at my moms place? or is it mandate to perform at in laws place ?
If your mom has custom to perform pooja then its the right place to start. Also this time pooja comes in Aavani month in valarpirai so a good time to start.
Mam, my father expired two years back. My mom had the vratham, I don’t do the pooja as our mil family doesn’t have the practice. My mom’s Amman mugam is with her. My brother’s wife does the pooja. My mom wants to keep the mugam and do pooja in our home. I am not sure about this. Can Amman mugam be kept without the kalasam?
When we do not have the practice is it fine to keep the mugam?
Am not planning to take up the vratham.
Not sure what’s right.
Yes as along as your mom does the pooja then it should be fine. Custom is man made. If we do the pooja with full devotion Goddess Lakshmi is going to accept it happily. If you still have queries pls consult a priest as they would give you perfect directions based on our Dharma sastra
Hi Mam,
I did poojai this year and the kalasam coconut went bad😟. What do I do? What is it indicates ? Is there anything that I can do to make it right ?
Namaste mam, i intend to start varamahalaxmi vratam this Friday, we have the custom of keeping kalasam everyday at poojai arai and change it weekly. My doubt is , should I decorate the everyday home kalasam as varalaxmi for vratam or should I keep a new kalasam as varalaxmi, along with everyday kalasam that am keeping at poojai arai. Kindly please reply🙏
Thank you for reaching me. I’m so sorry i don’t know how to guide you. Pls check with a priest for proper procedure. I don’t want to say something just for replying. Very sorry once again
Can I do varalakahmi poojai this year… Till now my mil didn’t keep nombu for me… She has this but she didn’t do it properly even before marriage also she stopped doing this … But I literally want to do it … Please tel me can I start this poojai this year
Hi Mam,
My mom did varalakshmi poojai and after completing (punar poojai) she moved the idol/kalasham.
When she moving, she said that she felt kalasam moved a bit but after 10 mins it fell down with coconut-Lakshmi face . Fortunately no damage in Lakshmi idol but I’m very worried about the incident.
What it indicates? By any chance, can we do any pariharam ?
Please help me with your advice.
Hi, I have missed two fridays of varalakshmi pooja , due to unforseen circumstances.
When will i be able to perform pooja this year. Pls kindly acknowledge. Thanks.
Hi Mam, can I buy new and bigger silverLakshmi face idol for varamahalakshmi vratha..one Lakshmi face idol is already @ home and kept@ pooja room regularly..can I buy the bigger one and keep it only for varamahalakshmi vratham?
Hi Mam, can I buy new and bigger silverLakshmi face idol for varamahalakshmi vratha..one Lakshmi face idol is already @ home and kept@ pooja room regularly..can I buy the bigger one and keep it only for varamahalakshmi vratham?
hi mam.i am married woman.we got married in nov 2013.till now i didnt do vratam.can i start doing this year.i heard there is arule that we should start vratam on odd years only.please guide
Sorry you message landed in SPAM folder and just now i noticed. If you are doing for the first time, you need to start only when Varalakshmi Vratham comes in Avani month. This year it was Avani month.but very sorry i just now saw this message. Check next year and if it comes in avani month you can start.
Hi Mam, is there a strict count of sumangalis we can invite to our home during puja? We live in abroad so I was able to invite only 3 ladies and give tambolam
hi Mam , For some of the other reason , this year since august 25th , I have not been able to perform the Varalakshmi vratam .Was hoping to do it on Sept 9th , but got flu .Is there any remedy for it ?
Hi if I have done varalakshmi puja n der r no married Indian ladies near me n temple is far to travel after puja can I give thamboolam to my 2 year old daughter
I want to know it too
I have 2 kids and during my 6 th day of my periods can I do pooja
If your periods is fully over you can very well do
Can I do do pooja on my 6th day of my periods I have 2 kids
Hi my friend married to a brahmin boy. Her MIL passes away 6 mths ago. Can she perform varalakshmi viratham prayers?
Sorry for 1 year we should not perform any festivals
When should perform pooja , either evening or morning and evening
Always in the morning before 10.30am
I am a married woman. Both my parents and my in laws do not have varalakshmi vratam. Can I do it?
Yes, anyone can start this pooja.
If both my in laws and mother's side no one has varalakshmi vratam at all, but I am interested. Can I start by myself? I am married with 2 children.
sure you can start. Just check if you have some friends who are already doing and you can start with them next year. If no one, then you can start by yourself
Thank you so much. I am really very happy to hear this as i ve been asking many people including my family vadhyar. We are basically palakkad iyers, and vadhyar said as we don't have, we shouldn't do the vratam. Anyways thank you so much. I have one more question. As you said anyone can start, will all the formalities like nombu, vratam, neivedhyam, procedures will be same or is there anything different for a beginner or who don't have? Regards..Srividya, Bangalore.
Mami, i was going through all your blogs, in certain blog you have mentioned that we have to take permission from MIL before starting. As I already mentioned earlier my family vadhyar said we should not do and my MIL generally follows whatever he says. I will try to convince her, but worried if she doesn't agree. Regards, Srividya, Bangalore.
I just wanted to know if their permission is must and as I don't stay with them, it hardly makes any difference, but my concern is should this vratam be performed only after seeking elders' consent. I am clarifying this because when I do the pooja, I want to do whole heartedly and on yearly basis.Thanks and Regards. Srividya
Annual Thithi (2nd death anniversary) of my eldest BIl falls this year on The date of Varalakshmi poojai. CAn i perform on that day or shoudl it be postponed to next friday?
Annual Thithi (2nd death anniversary) of my eldest BIl falls this year on The date of Varalakshmi poojai. CAn i perform on that day or shoudl it be postponed to next friday?
Useful information!!!
It is believed that performing Varalakshmi Homam on Varalakshmi Vrat day is equal to Worshipping Ashtalakshmi’s- the eight goddess. Varalakshmi homam is performed for the purpose of gaining wealth. To know more Click here
Mami, my father in laws brother passed away and so no festival for one year. As I cannot do varalakshmi vratham at home, can I go to my friends or neighbours house to do it. If so, how I have to do in their house. Just put Pushpam and tie the chardu or I can sit along with them and do the Pooja. Please advise. Thank you.
Sure you can do
can we keep two kalasam separately for a daughter in law and mother in law
yes if you both are in different locations
In a joint family can we do Varalakshmi vratam separately 2 times on same day?
ideally we should do only once if we all stay together in a same house
hi mam im starting varalakshmi pooja first in this year so when will buy the amman faceaadi month or avani month
Its always better to start with Avani Month
Hi Mam, my father in law passed away 2 years back. So I have 2 idols, one is mine and other is Mil’s. can I put 2 idols in one kalasam and do the puja?
Hi Ma’am,
My FIL passed away 2 years back. I have 2 ammans , one is mine and the other is my MIL’S. Can I put 2 ammans in one kalasam and do puja?
My MIL insists that I should do puja of both Ammans. How to do it? Please reply Ma’am.
Please check my mail.
namaskaram even i need a reply the above question as my question is the same
Yes we can put both the amman in the same kalpakam and perform pooja every year. Many of my friends are performing like that every year. I once checked with a priest and he also told that it is absolutely fine.
Hello mam, I am not having varalakshmi pooja this year however my mother is with me and she has festival? Can she keep kalasam in my house?
yes she can keep kasalam in your house
Hi Mam,
My mom used to perform Varalakshmi pooja for 28-29 years.But,now she is hospital and in bedridden condition due to brain hemorage.Am only child,can i still do the pooja?
Varalakshmi Pooja is open to everyone. With bakthi and dedication anyone can do this pooja. All it takes is our honest dedication and belief
Can I keep kalasam in steel I don’t have silver or brass
yes we can use
hi maam shall we set up the kalasam previous day
yes we can set up kalasam previous day
Hi,
My BIL’s sons FIL passed away two days back..can we still do the Varalakshmi Pooja next week?
Please let me know…we live in USA
Thanks,
Meena
yes we can still do varalakshmi pooja
When to remove the nombu saradu from hand.whether we have to tie for all the women coming to our home or only family members
Only saradu for family members. For rest we can give thamboolam. Generally the elders suggest us to keep till next year nonbu by applying turmeric every day. but we can keep atleast for 3 days. Do not remove on tuesdays and fridays
My chithappa died on 09/08/18. Can v go to my relative and take thoranam on Varalakshmi pooja day?
yes generally all the priest suggest us to go to relatives or friends place to tie the nombu saradu
Hi,
Can we offer varalakshmi nombu neivedyam to my neighbours and friends…
sure we can offer
Hello.. My friend is keeping two idol faces for Varalakshmi reason is not clear from her though . I am more curious in understanding the reason and history behind keeping two idols for Varalakshmi . Please assist us to know more about this . Thanks in advance
mostly one of the idol face would be our ancestors that was passed to us after we have got our own idol face. so some of us have 2 idols. otherwise there is no rule or procedure to keep 2 faces
Hi ,
What tamil solongas or tamil songs we need to chant while doing varalaxmi poojai ?
generally we chant lakshmi ashtotram along with other lakshmi songs like bagyadha lakshmi baramma
mami , I couldn’t do varalakshmi vratham this year that is 24/8/2018 as i was not feeling well . can i tie the thread just by chanting lakshmi ashtotharam without keeping the kalasham or can i postpone to next year . Pl advice me
generally if we have a tradition to keep kalasam we have to follow the same every year. If you feel good this friday you can very well do it. if at all you dont have any option, you can tie the thread
Hi, I would like to know when can we dismantle the kalasam?
Some say, we should not dismantle the same day (that is Friday) and Saturday is Lord Vishnu’s day. Is Sunday good day to dismantle it? I am doing the pooja today. But Sunday is Krishna Janmashtami, can I dismantle that day? Are there any odd day calculation to be considered? Sorry for so many questions, but I really need your help in this.. thanks.
yes we can dismantle on sunday. generally we do punar poojai the next day and the night we will remove amman and place in rice bucket. then the next day (3rd day) we will keep the amman in its box
Hi what can we do the Varalakshmi Amman old பாவாடை clothes used for Pooja?
We will keep it safe and use it for next year
This year I have no Pooja as my husband’s periamma expired. I was not able to tie charadu in others home also.somebody told me that not only we have to tie charadu we should keep our Amman mugam in their Pooja.Is it correct? Pls clarify.And pls let me know what to do if can’t tie charadu in others home also
no we can’t keep amman mugam in some other people’s pooha. we can go to others house and tie the charadu. But this year we can’t do with amman mugam
Can we use the gold jewellery that has been already worn or only new jewellery to decorate? Thank you.
We can use the jewelry that’s been worn also.
Hi Maami, I’m newly married and I stay with my in-laws. Our Vaadhyar says we have to keep two kalasams and do, one for my MIL and one for me(newly bought) but some say we should do in only one kalasam I.E keep both mugams in new kalasam and do. Which is correct? Please help.
We can keep 2 both the mugam in 2 different kalasam and perform the pooja together. My friend’s mom and her sister both have separate mugam and kalasam and they do the pooja together in one of their homes every year. So as per your vaadhyar you can do the 2 kalasam. Even if you want to move out later from your MIL home because of your job transfer then both of you have your own mugam and kalasam.
Can we place the kalasam facing north
Generally we place it facing East-West
Hi Madam, I’m in US, most of my friends are working and can’t make to come my house on Friday evening. So can I give Varalakshmi thamboolam on Saturday or Sunday?
Its always a good practice to give thamboolam on the same evening. But if you can’t find anyone to give thamboolam on the same day, pls give it on next day
Hi! My mother- in-law is visiting us, and the Pooja date falls during the visit. When I was newly married, I had performed the Pooja at her place, she put her Mugam first and then mine was below. She said that since it was her house hers had to be placed first and on top. Also, she made me return the Mugam in which I did the first Pooja saying that it was bigger than hers. Now since it is my house, will it be all right to have my Mugam go first? I would really appreciate your reply since I don’t know the customs in Iyers. All my cues on customs come from her like Mangalyam has to be purchased from girl’s side etc. etc. I am a Marathi Brahmin, and has not seen this before getting married. I want to do the right thing, that’s all. Thank you very much! Please let me know your thoughts.
You can have two separate mugam. My friends mom and her sister do this pooja every year on the same house and they use 2 kalsam and perform pooja separately for 2 kalasam. I’m not sure about the top and bottom placement. If you know a priest pls check with him once so we can be sure.
Hello mam, thanks for the information.
My parents not my in-laws perform varalaxmi vratham, but I’m v much interested so I started doing it since a year. But I did not keep any kalasha. I performed all the rituals keeping goddess Laxmi photo. Is it ok? I’m in dilemma as to keep kalash or not ,as I didn’t get this Pooja from my ansestors and I’m not sure how long will it continue after me..pls guide… Thanks
As long as we have the devotion in our mind nothing is wrong. Varalakshmi Pooja is open to anyone and goddess lakshmi will bless us with all health and wealth.
Can I keep lakshmi idol with out keeping kalasam and do pooja
If you don’t have a custom of keeping kalasam you can do it. Otherwise its customary to keep kalasam and do the pooja
Thanks soumya
Hi mam my husband in abroad .can I do varalakshmi nonbu this year..and I got periods also.plz suggest
Yes we can surely do and if you have your periods, pls do it next friday
hi mam.. shall i keep kalasam in morning do pooja and lock the door then go to office… or the door should be open ?? and some one should be in home…
we can close and go. Its not a problem. Evening we can light deepam and give thamboolam
Can a widow perform Lakshmi pooja in Friday.
We can recite ashtotharam and seek the blessings of goddess
Can we keep kalasam 2 times in a year.
MIL is telling ,with in one year we should not keep 2 times kalasam. Is it right??
We can keep 2 kalasam together and perform pooja. My friend’s mom and her sister both of them keep their kalasam in the same house and perform pooja every year.
Hi mam I am interested to start varalakshmi pooja this year shall I do it or not?i want to prepare the kalasam .is it mandatory to keep nombu saradu ?
If we want to perform pooja its good to have nombu saradu. But if you don’t have a custom, we can perform only pooja
If both daughter in laws have periods can mother in law do the Pooja this year?
If you all are staying together, yes your motherinlaw can do. If you all have separately staying and have amman mugam then you can do it next friday
Can an unmarried women can perform varalakshmi vratham and give thambulam?
Conventionally married women take this viratham from their inlaws or from their mother. But the pooja is not restricted like that. Anyone can perform pooja with devotion and give thambulam
Hello madam,
After doing varalakshmi puja can i go to my friends home to give thabolam as i stay abroad everyone can’t come home .. is it ok??
Suer we can go and give thamboolam
Mam I am brahmin married to non brahmin. My mom’s place we do varalaxmi vrat. But at my MiL place they don’t. Me n my husband live away from in laws place. So can I do this pooja. My inlaws and husband are ok with it, provided I religiously follow it every year. Pls suggest mam.
Sorry for late response. Surely you can perform. If you have missed to do the pooja today. pls do it next friday
Hi mam wish all the very best.Kindly tell what shall l do with Kule theivam and ganesh whole removing the kalasam.thank you
Hi, I did varamahalakshmi pooja in the morning but I got my periods in the afternoon, my husband and daughter did the evening pooja. Can I do the pooja next week again?
sure you can do.
Hi ma’am i celebrated varalakshmi pooja very welll..ad we remove kalasam on 3rd day but i got periods how do i remove kalasam.. my husband can do tis????
Yes, the kalasam can be removed by anyone in the home.
My MIL expired before my marriage I’m using her Amman face with mine but now some are saying we should not use as she is no more pls suggest me what I should do
Nothing like that. One of my friend is using her late MIL’s amman face and hers in the same kalasam one below other and perform pooja every year. Her family priest also says that’s totally fine. So instead of listening to others, just get one advice from your family priest and always think that your MIL’s blessing is with you thats the reason you are blessed to have both.
My Amman face fell down from kalasam on Saturday morning what should I d. Should I do the pooja again
Its just an accident. Do not feel bad. Just place it again and do lakshmi ashtotram and keep milk as prasad and once you finish off the pooja, you can pack and keep it for next year
Hi mam,
Thank you so much. I was really worried what I should do.
With regards
Bhuvaneswari
you are most welcome
Shall I do Varalakshmi Pooja on 30th August. Because of some problem am not perform Pooja at my home. 30th is the 5th Friday n it’s amavasya also. So, is it ok to do Pooja on that day. Please give reply,…
Hello Navatha, it’s Avani month already. I am not sure if it’s okay to perform the pooja in the following month as per tradition. Can you please check with a priest or a nearby temple.
Mam after my Pooja on varalakshmi vratham day my hubby expired. What is its effect why it happened. No obstacle to my pooja
Im deeply sorry Parvathi. Please do not link pooja and this unfortunate event. Please compose yourself I have a strong belief that God never punishes us for anything. Please take care.
Hi mam… This is my 6 th year of marriage..all these years I performed pooja with photo only but did not placed kalasham becoz the first year of my marriage has adhika masam..can I start keeping kalasham from this year??…my mil never does the pooja ..my mom does the pooja with kalasham…
If you have not started the kalpakam its auspicious when the pooja comes in Avant month. If you are telugu, then once the ammavasai is over i guess you can start
I am from andhrapradesh, currently living in us. I didn’t understand that avant month..sorry mam…can I keep kalasham for first time on this Friday July ,31
and this is my 6 th year of marriage..
Yeah Telugu people consider the Shravana month ends after the new moon day in shravana month. Since the new moon day is already over, you can keep the kalasham. I would advice you to check your family customs too before proceeding. Thanks
Hi mam thanku for pooja details, but I hv one dbt mam, before tieing knot I shld take tambulam so can I take tambulam from my husband and can my husband tie knot to me.
We have to hold the tamboolam plate and our husband can tie the knot
Hi mam. Can we clean god room in sravana masam?
Can I buy a new Varalakshmi Maugham by exchanging the one which I was doing puja for the last 29 years
I’m not so sure of this situation. You can check with your family elders or priest before exchanging
Hi ma’am. My in-law has never performed varalakshmi Vratham. My mother has. I want to do the puja. Can I do. Can I keep kala sham and do
For the first time its advisable to start when the Varalakshmi pooja comes in Avani month instead of Aadi. My MIL also don’t have custom and my mom has got me amman face last year but still I have not started yet as last year and this year the varalakshmi pooja is in Aadi month. So pls wait and start
Hello, we recently moved to new place, no Indians around our place. How should i give tamboolam or can i give tamboolam to my kid.
If you have nearby temple you can take thamboolam and give it to people who come to temple. If no temple nearby or any Indians around, its okay you can give tamboolam to your kid.
Hi. I have started varlakshmi Pooja after my marriage. Inspite of my mother and mother in laws don’t do it. I do it with all my interest. Have one doubt what should we do with the coconut placed on kalasam and rice filled in it
Generally my mom will grate the coconut refrigerate and use it for Krishna jayanthi prasad preparations.
Hi madam is it compulsory to do every year varalaxmi vratama thank you madam
Once started we need to do it every year
I started poooja this year and next day of pooja my MIL side with same surname someone expired and I didn’t move the kalasam, what is the option now?
Thank you!
Since you have already done the pooja, you have to do the Punar poojai like just offering fruits and flowers and move the kalasam to north direction. next day you can repack everything.
Ok Mam. Thank u
Hi Sowmya,
I got my periods this week. So I am not able to do pooja today. As you said I am going to do pooja next week. But I have little disappointment for not able to do this week. All my friends have been able to do but I’m not able to. Is it because of anything wrong I did?
Nothing like that. This is natural. so do the pooja next week. Its nothing wrong you have done. Dom’t worry too much
Maam every time we have varamahalakshmi pooja we have some fight at home ,in my moms place there is a tradition of conducting this we somehow manage to do ,we follow the right practice ,now im married n its 3 months my husband family does not have this tradition but they gave me permission as i stay alone in my house ,I wanted start it but could not because like every year the same way how it happens in my moms place this year even in my house the day before some issue arose and created trouble and we lost the interest to conduct im jus failing to understand why this happens ,please help me im eagerly waiting for ur reply.
Please don’t relate any domestic issues with pooja. You try doing the pooja next Friday
Hello Mam,
I wanted to do the Varalakshmi pooja and planned this year for the first time. But I could not do it because i had periods on the Varalakshmi pooja day. Can I start the Pooja this year itself on coming Friday? worried if Theipirai is not a good day to start as it is the first time Please advise, thanks in advance.
Hi Bhuvaneshwari, if you are planning to start for the first time, I would advice you to wait for the next year as it comes in Avani month which is auspicious to start new custom.
Dear Mam, I did the varalakshmi during this year for the first time. I kept three glass of rice in the plate and then kalasam.
But during third day, after removing kalasam, I found the quantity of rice is slightly decreased and also found a worm in the rice.
I am not happy about this. Kindly explain the symptoms of this.
Are we not blessed by goddess.
Thanks,
Bhanu
Please don’t relate these natural causes to God. the kalasam might have been damp before adding rice. That might have caused the rice to stick with each other and the dampness will be reason for the worm also. This surely not related to God. Anything we do with our full heart is always accepted by God. We are children of God and he/she will not punish us.
Hi Mam,
My Father-in-laws brother’s son is expired on the day of varalaxmi vratam in India. I’m currently in USA And this is the first year i was wishing to start doing varalaxmi vratam. Is it fine if I do vratam on the friday that comes after 11 days of his death.
Now my Father in law n his brother’s family is not staying together ( not a combined family).
Please help me with ur resplnse
We generally don’t do any pooja if someone from our FIL side passes away. Please wait til next year to start the pooja.
Can i allow other people to give their kalasam filled with rice and coins to my varalakshmi pooja. Because once i allowed my nighbor to give their kalasam to my poojai and later i returned it without rice and coins to her. Now we are suffering more without profit in our business. i feel little bit doubted about it. can you please say about it. Can we let other people to handle their kalasam in my poojai and let them take it back to their home?
Hi Rekha, sorry to know about loss in business. I personally don’t think keeping other’s Kalasam is a problem. I have seen many of my friends and relatives doing pooja together. Let us Surrender to Goddess Lakshmi and do pooja dedicatedly and she will bless us.
Hi mam, my husband periyappa son passed away this year . can i do varalakshi pooja at home. I am living in Bahrain.
If its same Gothram, we cannot do pooja. We have to just offer vethala paakku, pazham and tie the saradu
Hi mam in this corona time it is difficult to give thamboolam to five members even it is difficult to go to temples,is there any alternative for giving thamboolam?only mother is available in my house.
Given the situation, its okay to give to one sumangali. Its all our devotion that matter than the numbers😊
Shall I perform Varalakshmi pooja at home but I m unmarried and my mom passed away before two years .shall I perform Varalakshmi pooja
Varalakshmi pooja is performed by the married women. You can read the Lakshmi ashtotram and do pooja normally 🙏
No married women in my home and no senior ladies too.shall I perform Varalakshmi pooja
If you could check with your family priest, he can guide you correctly. He can come unperson and help with mantras too. Or you can ask any of your friends who are doing this pooja everyyear and join with them for the first year. 🙏
my husband’s Grandmother expired this year so that would mean, I don’t do Puja this year correct? when we say 1 year, it’s one year from her her death( 365 days). Also I was told if you start the Puja any year, you are required to do every year. Can’t miss a year.Is that correct? can I go to temple and watch the puja there?
Pls check with your family priest. Eventhough we can’t do pooja this year you should do fruit neivedhyam i guess. pls check with priest they would guide you correctly
I am married and right now at moms place because of Aadi month and I will go back to in laws place after the Vara Lakshmi Vratam only..I never did Varalakshmi vratam before and wanted start the Pooja this time.. So can I perform Pooja at my moms place? or is it mandate to perform at in laws place ?
If your mom has custom to perform pooja then its the right place to start. Also this time pooja comes in Aavani month in valarpirai so a good time to start.
Mam, my father expired two years back. My mom had the vratham, I don’t do the pooja as our mil family doesn’t have the practice. My mom’s Amman mugam is with her. My brother’s wife does the pooja. My mom wants to keep the mugam and do pooja in our home. I am not sure about this. Can Amman mugam be kept without the kalasam?
When we do not have the practice is it fine to keep the mugam?
Am not planning to take up the vratham.
Not sure what’s right.
Yes as along as your mom does the pooja then it should be fine. Custom is man made. If we do the pooja with full devotion Goddess Lakshmi is going to accept it happily. If you still have queries pls consult a priest as they would give you perfect directions based on our Dharma sastra
After dropping of Saree to kalasam. Can we use it or we have to give it to temple
You can use the same saree for amman next year or you can wear.
Can I use the Saree dropping in kalasam
Make sure you wear new saree to amman instead of used saree
Hi Mam,
My friends mom, FIL passed away 2 weeks back. Can I give tamboolam to my friends mom?
If the rituals are completed you can give
Can we stop varamahalakshmi festival for 3 years or 5 years?!!
Sorry pls check with your family priest. As far my knowledge we should keep continuing if our family has the custom
hi mam, i am vidya. what will do the coconut after the kalasa pooja
I usually grate and store in refrigerator and use it for next festival
Hi Mam,
I did poojai this year and the kalasam coconut went bad😟. What do I do? What is it indicates ? Is there anything that I can do to make it right ?
Hi, do not worry. We have done the pooja with dedication and bakthi. so don’t think anything else. Just discard the coconut.
Namaste mam, i intend to start varamahalaxmi vratam this Friday, we have the custom of keeping kalasam everyday at poojai arai and change it weekly. My doubt is , should I decorate the everyday home kalasam as varalaxmi for vratam or should I keep a new kalasam as varalaxmi, along with everyday kalasam that am keeping at poojai arai. Kindly please reply🙏
Thank you for reaching me. I’m so sorry i don’t know how to guide you. Pls check with a priest for proper procedure. I don’t want to say something just for replying. Very sorry once again
Can we give thamboolam to own sister who is married? Is there any restrictions to whom we can give?
yes surely we can give 🙏
Can I do varalakahmi poojai this year… Till now my mil didn’t keep nombu for me… She has this but she didn’t do it properly even before marriage also she stopped doing this … But I literally want to do it … Please tel me can I start this poojai this year
Its a family custom. Its better to come from your mil instead of starting on your own. If they give blessing you can start.
My husband’s married sister aged 70 as a sumangali 40 days ago, can we do Varalakshmi Pooja ?
Hi Mam,
My mom did varalakshmi poojai and after completing (punar poojai) she moved the idol/kalasham.
When she moving, she said that she felt kalasam moved a bit but after 10 mins it fell down with coconut-Lakshmi face . Fortunately no damage in Lakshmi idol but I’m very worried about the incident.
What it indicates? By any chance, can we do any pariharam ?
Please help me with your advice.
Pls consult with your family pandit. I can’t personally say its correct or not. Its better to hear from pandit.
Hi, I have missed two fridays of varalakshmi pooja , due to unforseen circumstances.
When will i be able to perform pooja this year. Pls kindly acknowledge. Thanks.
Please consult with your family pandit they will be able to guide you correctly. Thanks
Can I do varalakshmi pooja this year after delivery (past one month)?
(My due date is on july 7th)
Sorry I’m not sure. I can check and tell. Thanks
Hi Mam, can I buy new and bigger silverLakshmi face idol for varamahalakshmi vratha..one Lakshmi face idol is already @ home and kept@ pooja room regularly..can I buy the bigger one and keep it only for varamahalakshmi vratham?
Hi Mam, can I buy new and bigger silverLakshmi face idol for varamahalakshmi vratha..one Lakshmi face idol is already @ home and kept@ pooja room regularly..can I buy the bigger one and keep it only for varamahalakshmi vratham?
Sorry ‘m not sure. Please check with your family priest they will be the right person to guide.
hi mam.i am married woman.we got married in nov 2013.till now i didnt do vratam.can i start doing this year.i heard there is arule that we should start vratam on odd years only.please guide
Sorry you message landed in SPAM folder and just now i noticed. If you are doing for the first time, you need to start only when Varalakshmi Vratham comes in Avani month. This year it was Avani month.but very sorry i just now saw this message. Check next year and if it comes in avani month you can start.
Hi Mam, is there a strict count of sumangalis we can invite to our home during puja? We live in abroad so I was able to invite only 3 ladies and give tambolam
Nothing like that. We can invite how many we could.
hi Mam , For some of the other reason , this year since august 25th , I have not been able to perform the Varalakshmi vratam .Was hoping to do it on Sept 9th , but got flu .Is there any remedy for it ?
I’m sorry your message was in SPAM folder so I missed responding. Hope you have found some remedy